Jason suggested I take a bit of a blogging break, and I thought his suggestion was wise.
You see, I've been blogging for a little while now, and I feel as if it's time for a change. Many D/S bloggers stop blogging after a year or two, for a variety of reasons. I suspect I know some reasons why.
First, there comes a point when what you share becomes very personal. The nature of blogging means that you need to be discerning in what you share and what you don't, and it becomes more difficult to make that judgment call.
Second, you begin to wonder...what should I share that I haven't already shared? Really, how many times and in how many ways can I say the same things? You don't want your writing to become stale or repetitive.
Third, blogging takes up a great deal of time...and so does living a D/S dynamic. It becomes difficult to find time to do both.
And there are other reasons. Many of us start in the same place, but the nature of a D/S dynamic means that every one of us will arrive at different places, and the longer a couple embraces the dynamic, the more individualistic that one dynamic becomes. Sharing things on a blog therefore becomes riskier. You risk offending, scandalizing, or being misunderstood. I've done all those things.
It's okay. I know it's a risk you take when you blog. Still, it can be hard when that happens.
So over the past few weeks, I've been thinking. I've sought the counsel of a few dear friends who've also read my little corner of blog land. I've talked to Jason. And I've wondered...has my purpose here come to an end?
I had decided to stop blogging. I've been told by another fellow blogger that blogging is “narcissistic.” I'm not sure that's true, but I know I want to avoid that. I never want to brag, or make it “all about me,” and it was my strong desire to avoid that type of blogging that contributed to my initial decision to fold my cards.
But as I thought it over, I was encouraged not to stop, but to re-think. Maybe it's time for a new format. Maybe it's time to approach things differently. A dear friend asked me what it was that I gleaned from blogging? Was it worth it for me to continue? And over the past few weeks, as I've contemplated this, I decided that yes. It is. I love writing. I am passionate about D/S. And nothing is more satisfying to me than when someone writes and says thank you for making me feel understood.
So please bear with me as I try to ease my way into a bit of a different format...I'm thinking more literary at times, and maybe a bit more introspective, but I'd also like to try some give and take, perhaps with some reflection and open-ended questions for discussion. I have some ideas I'd like to try, and I'm not quite sure how it will all work. So thanks for hanging around, and coming along for the ride.