Friday, November 27, 2015

Please vote!

Thanks so much to all who voted!

What type of post would you like to read?

Anecdotal posts focusing on the romantic side of a d/s dynamic
Personal experiences and "advice from the trenches"
"Everyday d/s experiences"
Questions inviting reader feedback
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  1. You should write I believe on whatever is on your mind or your heart. If your goal is to have more followers or readers then the vote thing might be a great idea. I enjoy posts that are helpful, I also love funny posts. Most of all I like posts that are what I like to believe are raw honest & truthful. I myself can look at mine & see way more negative posts. I know that is not a good thing but that is when I usually post unfortunately, I write it down & many times gives me a new perspective after doing so. Good Luck with your results :)

  2. Hi, Ashley. Thanks for replying! My goal in putting the poll up is to see what people who come here to read want to read. I changed up the format last year, doing more "what do you think" posts, but based on feedback here, readers really aren't here to discuss, but to read posts with other focuses. So in 2016, I want to be really intentional with how I spend my time blogging. And this has given me some good feedback!

    I know what you mean, though. If the blog's purpose is to help me process or something similar, then I should write whatever's on my mind or heart. Sometimes it feels a bit too raw...but what I've been doing lately is just drafting and saving and then later I may or may not share it.

    Thanks for letting me know what you like to read, too.

    If it helps you to write when you're down, or trying to figure something out, I don't see that as a bad thing. Personally, it doesn't really help me so I don't do a lot of that kind of post, but that said, I also think the downside is that I tend to give a really rosy kinda view into things.

    Thanks so much for your feedback! And it's good to "See" you. :)

  3. Personally, I love each and every one of your posts. But, if I had to choose what I like best, I would choose the "cultivating your submission" posts. I am very interested in having a D/s dynamic, and while my husband says that he does as well, he doesn't back up his words with any actions. So those posts help me keep my focus, where it needs to be, on myself and my actions. Because after time and time again of trying to get him on board with what I want we took a break from it all. And now I see that I can be submissive to my husband without him being dominant. And I think I want to be submissive as much as I want to feel his dominance. So that is what I am attempting to do. It isn't always easy, but it is always worth it. Thank you for every word you have written here, and for your awesome resources page. You are truly helping people. And I hope I can help someone as much as you have helped me in the future.

    1. Dear Anonymous,
      Thank you for your support and the kind words about my blog. I'm thrilled you've found the submission series beneficial for your marriage. This is why I do what I do, and I love hearing that others benefit positively from what I've written here.

      Submitting without the expectation of obedience, without your husband's dominance, is a hard road to walk. Not for the faint of heart. But you will find inner strength as you take that walk and you're totally correct -- it isn't always easy, but it's worth it. Peace and intimacy can come about from the mere act of removing the power struggle in your relationship. And as you submit, you will build your husband's confidence and show him you really mean that you will trust him.

      I wish you the best of luck!

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