Tuesday, October 18, 2016

A quick note

Dear readers, 

I said last week that I was taking a break. I just wanted to pop in here quickly.

I was completely blown away by the comments on that post, and the emails and and messages that flooded my inbox. Your support and encouragement mean so much to me! Jason read through as well, and we talked. We decided I will continue blogging when I come back from vacation. My response to criticism was really just a very good indication to me that it was time for a break. I am sure I will come back renewed and refreshed! If you were one of the many who emailed me, I loved receiving your emails and look forward to corresponding when I return. I just wanted to say thank you.

With love,
Jason's Girl

30 comments:

  1. Wonderful news!!
    Ava

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  2. I'm so glad to hear you're coming back!! I have been thinking about you since your last post and have decided it isn't fair of me to expect you to keep blogging and sharing your life to almost exclusively silent readers. I had never thought about how the silence must feel to you. So I've decided to comment on the posts I read from now on. Thank you for allowing anonymous comments!!

    To introduce myself a little, I am happily married and we have had elements of D/s in our relationship for the last 5 years or so. I love it and thrive on it. Your blog has been a source of inspiration and encouragement to me. Thank you!

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    1. Hello, Molly! It is nice to "meet" you. :)

      Over the years, there have been times when it was hard not to hear from readers, because I wondered if anyone was really reading, and if it was worthwhile continuing. I don't read other blogs very often, and don't comment very often, so because I'm not an active member of the blogging community, I feel a bit on the outskirts.

      That said, after all the wonderful comments and emails I got, I'm sure now that the time spent blogging -- both for myself, and for others in the community -- is worth continuing. This is a really private, personal lifestyle choice -- so I dont' want anyone to feel as if they have to come out of lurkdom. As much I love to hear from others, I promise it's okay if you feel safer as a lurker! :)

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  3. Hurray!! I so look forward to you coming back from your break. Also, I LOVE your books and the latest blurb with Slay and Alice (swoon!).

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    1. Yay!! Thank you! And Slay and Alice are out December 2! (And a dark western historical out the week before. Yeehaw! :D )

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  4. Hi Jane, I am so so glad, cheered me up no end knowing you are coming back. have a lovely holiday
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Thank you, Jan! I hope you are well. ((hugs))

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  5. I'm so happy to hear this, honey! I wish you both a wonderful, relaxing, and renewing vacation and prayers for safe travels!:) Through everything, it is always a good and much needed thing to focus on yourself and allow yourself some self care, and we faithful readers respect, understand, and accept that wholeheartedly!

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  6. Am so glad you're staying. Enjoy your vacation.

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    1. It was an amazing vacation, thank you!!

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  7. Wonderful news! Have a fabulous and safe trip!! :)

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  8. Jane, I am so glad you're not leaving your wonderful blog. Add me to the long list of lurkers who've never commented before. I kicked myself when you thanked all those who wrote (as I knew they would!), as I had planned to, as well, but didn't get to it (procrastination gets me in trouble! ;-) )

    Regarding the comment/s that got you down, it's understandable. You put your heart and soul out there for all, and it can leave you feeling vulnerable. I'm sensitive, too, and know too well how comments from others online can hurt. I hope you now realize that you have so many supporters--and some of us have been silent too long. I will do my best to comment on your blogs, which my husband and I love to read together. We've been married for 19 years, met in a BDSM club in 1995, and DD is our main focus and what keeps us both happy. Thank you so much for sharing your NON-abusive DD relationship with Jason, and enjoy your well-deserved break! Keep smiling! :-)

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    1. Please, don't worry about it! I am so thankful to those who have written, but also totally understand that many are happier in lurkdom. Thank you for your encouragement, and taking the time to write. How awesome that you have been at this so long, and so happily. An encouragement to me! :) Thank you!

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    2. It's always a work in progress! ;-) We've been up and down with DD, but finally have both completely committed to this lifestyle. We're both miserable without it. It's amazing how powerful it is for a marriage. The big key, as I know you know, is excellent communication. Glad you had a great vacation and looking forward to your next post! ;-) x

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  9. Yay :))!! I'm so so glad and happy about that. Thank you both!
    You are a really really great support. Wonderful holidays! Hugs, Bibi

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  10. The ladies above are right. I will comment more often, too :)!
    I am nearly 30 years old, my husband is my partner since I am 17. We have two toddlers and learning DD D/s for only one year ;). Bibi

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    1. Aww, I appreciate it! Thank you for writing and it is nice to "meet" you.

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  11. Yay! While I understand needing a break, I am very selfishly, really glad that you decided to continue with your blog. I love the sneak peek into your relationship and it gives me hope for my own growing and changing relationship with my husband.
    Rai

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    1. Rai, thank you. It's been nice getting to "know" you a bit better in the writing community, and I so appreciate your support!

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  12. I too know firsthand how it feels to be harshly criticized/unfairly questioned after sharing intimately about my DD marriage. It is worse if it is by someone who claims to know you well and care for you. Blogging does seem potentially the "safer" outlet in this regard-- you can more easily ignore the mistruths as someone who is being ignorant and misunderstanding of you, someone who doesn't have to be accountable or truly caring at all really. You have no control over whether or not someone chooses to see you in the best light possible, but you don't have to pay them any mind. Easier said than done, I'm sure!

    The other option to anonymous blogging, what I chose exclusively, is to share with more close friends. Even faithful, steady friends can have misunderstandings that are hard to navigate. This lifestyle and sharing rawly within it on any platform is a risk. Sharing about it with others makes a vulnerable lifestyle even more intensely vulnerable; blogging makes you vulnerable at the "hands" of strangers, and not just the one who loves who best.

    Some people are going to edify you even as they ask questions in a caring way. Some people are going to shred you to pieces and maybe not even realize it and move on, calling you defensive if you try to explain, or passive aggressive if you ignore it or ask to table it for a time. There is just simply a risk of sharing intimately in any capacity, especially the love stories that are constantly being played out between us and our hot, dominant husbands ;P, but we are made for relationships. Hard wired for it! It is so hard for me to even to discern what feels appropriate to share-- afterall, I want to "become one" with my husband, not my friends or the DD community!

    I don't blame you for taking a break, I hope you can strike a healthy balance of the benefits & risks. You are a brilliant writer. I'm in awe of how you do share so much. I am an introvert who absorbs emotions as well and know about myself that I could never make such an investment and be able to temper the negative and stay emotionally well longterm. If blogging works for you, I hope you do keep at it. Praying you find your longterm healthy balance <3

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    1. Mrs, thank you for your insightful comment, and for sharing your own experiences as well. It helped me think on it. It is challenging, at times, to strike the right balance between what to share, and what to keep to myself...as I do like to keep a good deal private. That said, I feel it's worth the time writing about all this because I process my own dynamic, and we all feel a bit more understood. I've spent a good deal of time thinking about I would like to continue, and I think this will work out for the best. Thank you!

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  13. So happy you are vacationing AND coming back. I learn a lot and I only wish my husband had a resource as well. It's been harder for him, I think, to try to understand this. And he is trying.

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    1. HI Jason'so girl, I have been following you for years and on another website also. I enjoy your posts and many of them are very thought provoking. This life is not easy and I truly wonder how you do it with your little ones too.
      Your blogs offer so much to so many of us. I am sure many of us wish our spouses were just like Jason. Strong and consistent but this must have been a work in process for him too.
      I have also enjoyed your books I think.I have read 3 or 4 of them very good work.
      Please don't stop blogging or writing. I too will post more often.
      You are truly blessed.

      Candy

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    2. Deena -- it is so hard for them to grasp this, at times, as their role in all this runs so contrary to what society tells us is acceptable. Keep trying to communicate, build him up, and I hope you find your relationship blessed as a result. thank you for writing!

      Candy, I think we may have chatted once or twice. THank you for writing to me! Yes, it is a work in progress for him as well, but we have come to a point where we know what works for us (usually). So I am very thankful...and I think he is, too (less work if there's less trial and error! lol). But thank you. I am planning on continuing to write and blog as well. Thank you for writing. I am blessed indeed.

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  14. Welcome back, sweety! so good to read your encouraging words, as always:)

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